Yes my periods can be a little heavy at first and I can be a grumpy soul middle of the month but I figured I could manage that for now. IвЂ™d done it for years and although IвЂ™d have to put up with periods, I liked being natural. However, when my periods returned around 11-12 months after I had him, I realised I didnвЂ™t want to be on any contraception. Of course there was that sad feeling when coming to that realisation but I still felt sure. I loved him but I knew he would be my last baby. It was the most rapid and painful birth, after a surprising long labour. I knew I didnвЂ™t want anymore babies, the minute I had given birth to him. Something felt different after he was born however. I wouldnвЂ™t say he was planned that early but hey ho, these things happen when you relax on holiday!! I remember the midwife, asking me if I would like a third and when I hesitated, she said, вЂњwe will see you againвЂќ and she was right! I fell pregnant with the little man on holiday when my second daughter was 21 months old.

There was always hints of having a third child after she was born. I has been on contraception since I was 17 years old and after the birth of our second daughter, I never went back on any. I guess you move on and that feeling isnвЂ™t there anymore, once you have your children. The idea of not being fertile anymore isnвЂ™t an issue for him anymore, as he feels he had had his time for all of that. I asked him about having no swimmers in his sperm. The thought of pregnancy and another teeny baby can be welcoming and I even feel broody somedays! But then the thought of coping with another newborn and bringing up another child feels completely overwhelming and like my husband, I know IвЂ™m done. He feels he would be too old for another child doesnвЂ™t have the energy, even though the thought of another little one running around is always a pleasant thought. He also jested, вЂњhow would we get a fourth child in our car?вЂќ Men.

These were the words that came out of his mouth when I asked him why he was ready to have a vasectomy. You can go private or on the good old NHS.Дeciding To Have a Vasectomy вЂ“ My HusbandвЂ™s Views Often people ask how old do you need to be for a vasectomy? The NHS state you are more likely to get one if you are over 30 and have children.ДЇrom speaking to friends who have already had the procedure, it is a little painful and a little bit of rest is needed after but them most men have been good to go back to work and get on (or so I have been told вЂ“ everyone is different!). It is of course a big decision when deciding to have a vasectomy and counselling can be offered prior. People often ask do you still ejaculate after a vasectomy? The answer is yesвЂ¦just without the little swimmers! It is thought to be 99% effective (though that 1% slightly worries me!) AfterwardsВ contraception is still needed for at least 8 to 12 weeks after the operation, because sperm will still be in the tubes leading to the penis.В Up to 2 semen tests are done after the operation to make sure that all the sperm have gone. The tubes that carry sperm from a manвЂ™s testicles to the penis are cut, blocked or sealed with heat.

All about give and take when it comes to relationships eh?ДЄ vasectomy as stated on the NHS website is,В вЂњa surgical procedure to cut or seal the tubes that carry a manвЂ™s sperm to permanently prevent pregnancy.вЂќ It doesnвЂ™t sound like the most amazing thing for a man to have to do but at the same time, nor is pushing our almost 9lb (middley) boulder from my vagina. But we are looking at the new year for our little ManвЂ™s operation on his umbilical granuloma вЂ“ just a sign of the times. He called up in June, if I remember correctly and we have heard nothing. He is still waiting to hear back from this referral. By the time he made the decision to call the GP and ask for a referral, we were in the craziness of the pandemic and we knew there would be a huge wait and of course we were right. When I say months, he made the decision after the birth of our little man but heвЂ™s quite slow off the mark. ItвЂ™s also a good few months since my husband went though the process of deciding to have a vasectomy. I also find it strange writing about something other than Christmas and toys right now!! But itвЂ™s been a while, since I have shared anything personal on the blog. I quite feel it should be my husband writing this post for me but heвЂ™s not.

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